It happens for a variety of reasons that after a while, a couple does not connect anymore. The distance between them keeps widening and they are not particularly sure why; there is no case of infidelity or any such offence yet they are growing apart. Most times in such cases, the couple is advised not to let what they have slipped away just like that; they are advised to fight and attempt to rekindle the flames of love through counseling by getting to the root of the problem.
However, for most Nigerian couples, and indeed people of African descent, counseling is for white people! They find it weird and even disturbing to tell your woes and personal details to a total stranger. To most of us, it is a waste of time and resources.
The way I see it, we should not be too quick to look down on counseling sessions. It may seem uncomfortable at first but if you keep an open mind, you warm up to it. Speaking to a third party that is professionally trained to help you in an unbiased manner might help you see things from a different perspective. The objectivity of the profession eliminates the thought that the counselor might take sides.
So guys, if your woman suggests counseling you should not laugh at her and say she is being ridiculous (I am speaking to guys specifically because they tend to shy away from this kind of topic). Don’t be too quick to throw away relationships. Do your best to work on them. Explore all options available to you and if that doesn’t work then I give you the permission to throw in the towel.
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